Late to post, but needed to be posted after re-reading it...

Valentine's Day





I thought about this exstensively; this day should be used as a reminder to love others. And ourselves. Instead of boohooing about being alone on a holiday meant for love, share the love you want to give with yourself. It should make you a lot less lonely. Because if you were meant to be wtih somebody, you will...and you hopefully want to be with somebody that loves you for exactly who you are, right? then love yourself exactly how you are. don't judge yourself for being single. INstead, celebrate the things you love that make you YOU.

that's what i am doing. the right person'll show up and i'll never be upset about valentine's day again. in fact, i am willing to bet money that i'll probably think of it more like Christmas. So i am enjoying this one.

I will miss the affection, but real affection, at least the kind i like, that has a good intention behind it, a real one; so that is what i share with the universe today.

i know there is somebody who is looking for something else than what they got in the world; i look for it too. we could find it together. it might be in each other.





the perfect first date for me:

(for all those intently wondering about my personal preference)

smoke a bowl, listen to music.

self explanatory. take off your cool, relax, stay awhile. if we like the same music, that's a fantastic start. i love music, and sometimes it is how i try to communicate.


make a community art project. i am talking about creating something as a unit. a boyfriend of mine and i wrote poetry on our first date, passing a note back and forth at the restaurant, one word at a time. i would love to paint; i think that would be my favorite...but pottery would be cool too. Music. I often created music with a few guys i dated. Or theater. Charades, improv, whatever. My first love and I used to dance for hours together.



follow up with Simpsons or other classic comedy, if necessary. chances are if going good, you might not need it. If going really really really really really good, you'll want it. we gotta laugh about something at that point.



the perfect second date:

hiking. all day. maybe even a weekend. if we get to this part, we have to be outside together.



perfect third:

go out for drinks and or dinner. now that we have mastered alone with each other, lets take this good looking act on the road.

i guess i am not one just to get to know....i like to know everything, and spend lots of time and be willing to spend lots of time to get to know everything about you. and i guess i really need to ask for a man who is willing to jump feet first into this thing enough with me in order to do it this way...cause let's face it, it is a little backwards for most in society. but i am doing this to fall in love, not to get laid.
this criteria is always subject to change, like everything else in my life. but this is really what i want. i want a nice blend of all of them.